RIP Griffin Sivret

She transitioned herself to death

Griffin was not her birth name, but her chosen name.

On July 31, 2024, in Massachusetts USA, a funeral was held for a woman who was only 24 years old. You can read her obituary here. She didn’t die as a result of a car accident, cancer or even suicide, but from her belief that she had been born in the wrong body, so needed to have that body chemically and surgically altered to match her delusional self-perceptions.

She died in her quest to be able to urinate standing up, like real men do, but by the time she became terminally ill, this no longer really mattered as she couldn’t produce any urine at all because her kidneys had failed.

Doomed from the start?  

Her history was the same as so many other young girls who decide that all their angst is a result of being born female, so if they hocus pocus up their true male bodies, all their problems will disappear in a cloud of sparkly glitter.

At age 13, she was teased at school about her looks; about how much she weighed and what her teeth looked like. Her parents split up during this period and she was online more than ever. This is probably where she discovered that her problems could be ‘fixed’ with a bit of medical help.

Started on puberty blockers age 13, these were swiftly followed by testosterone at 15, a double mastectomy at 17, a hysterectomy at 19, and a phalloplasty at 21 years old.

After her hysterectomy she became addicted to the post-op opioids that had been prescribed for pain relief (this turned into heroin use), she survived an episode of deep vein thrombosis (she almost lost her leg), she could not walk unassisted, she suffered a heart attack, kidney dialysis and multiple organ failure and finally, a brain hemorrhage.

In 11 years of “sex reassignment treatments” she had a total of nine major surgeries, the majority of which were frantic and futile attempts so correct everything that went wrong with her first phalloplasty procedure.

I really want you to consider that at the start of her “transgender journey”, she was a healthy 13-year-old girl, who with the assistance of multiple hospitals, doctors and clinics and either parental or “informed” consent, was made increasingly unwell to the point that her body could no longer cope with the continual assaults from her “gender affirming care”.

Phalloplasty is a bit like the ‘pin the tail on the donkey’ children’s game

Phalloplasty is plastic surgery performed to construct, repair, or enlarge the penis. Its original purpose was to repair injuries to the penises of men, but of course now you can read entire studies on this procedure without mentioning men at all because nearly every phalloplasty is performed for the purpose of cosmetically creating a penis for women claiming a male identity.

Unlike breasts, which if not grown naturally are really only ornamental (babies can’t eat silicone and the absence of connected up nerves means no feeling or erotic potential), penises have function that is important. For men, the penis is used for both urination and for reproduction via ejaculation of sperm produced in the testicles.

One form of phalloplasty creates a penis that is not used for urination, and although mechanical help can be given to achieve an erection, women never produce any seminal fluid either. In fact, one of the first questions that would be penis havers will be asked by their surgeons is “what do you want to accomplish?” The answer will determine the type of penile construction that is attempted and will have a great bearing on the ultimate success or otherwise of what is always a multi-phased surgical plan. A phalloplasty is never a one-shot deal.

There are four main options to choose from: normal appearance, tactile and erogenous sensation, standing urination, and the ability to have an erection and penetrative intercourse. Patients may be able to choose more than one, but no woman will ever get all four as this is surgically impossible (at least in today’s world).

This article goes into great detail about this very complicated surgical procedure, but do not click on the link unless you are OK with seeing graphic surgical photos.

According to this systematic review of phalloplasty the overall complication rate was 76.5%. Which means that over three quarters of women attempting to attach a faux penis had complications, some of which can mean that they end up with substantial damage to the perineum that can be impossible to rectify.

Please note that any post-surgical morbidity events have been created by taking healthy bodies and deliberately causing them to become disordered and unwell. If Griffin had appropriate psychological support that commenced when she was 13, rather than a seat on the gender woo express, she would probably still be alive today.

Disassociation: a necessary step in harmful body modification

“Gender affirming” health care professionals capitalize on the pain and trauma of girls like Griffin.  They sell harmful hormone use and mutilating plastic surgeries as an escape from emotional turmoil and an embrace of “authenticity”. They force their patients out of the normal pain/pleasure response where pain is now symbolically linked to image, external objectification, and status. The purpose of the pain/pleasure response is protection and safeguarding; normally we move away from pain and towards pleasure, but in the case of girls like Griffin, this healthy and developmentally normal function has been disrupted and perverted. So, her natural instincts, which are the building blocks of healthy bodily autonomy and boundaries vanish like unicorns in a forest fire.

How can these created and forever patients find contentment with their real bodies while living in a state of self-objectification and dissociation? Avoiding grappling with inner emotional conflicts by getting plastic surgery is a superficial and useless way out that doesn’t fix the real problem. It can appear to be ‘taking control’ of your body to impose a chosen shape on it, but it is really a method of disassociating from emotional pain.

“Trans joy” is a mirage

That would be a “no thanks” from me.

This link will connect you to the Instagram posts that were made by Griffin for about the last three and a half years of her short life. I never knew her, but what I read here was not the chronicle of someone who had found joy, happiness or contentment.

Unsurprisingly, given her extreme medical problems, she was absorbed in these, was in constant pain, spent more time than not as a hospital inpatient and was unable to work, enjoy her hobbies or even just socialize with her friends. She also talked right until the end about her body dysmorphia, which never seemed to resolve, however many surgeries or “gender affirming” treatments she had.

Being trans didn’t help Griffin to grow up or live a normal adult life. Skipping the tasks of female puberty that need to be done to become a woman didn’t mean that Griffin grew to manhood, all she became was a caricature of a man. A belief in “trans kids” ultimately ended her life, but only after others had profited from her untreated distress.